We will now attack questions 4 & 5 together. Who is willing? Who is best? Who’s best isn’t always willing and who’s willing isn’t always best. Answering these questions is going to be hard and once again, will take time. Are there friends that you currently feel comfortable talking about your disorder with? Is there someone in your life that you find yourself going to when you are in distress or need to talk?
Those are the people most likely to be on your list. What you will find is that the person or people who should be on your list are already doing the very things you need them to when you are in a crisis or on the verge of one.
If you haven’t realized by now, your list will most likely build itself. You need to make note of the people that keep you calm, and bring you peace. Be mindful of those who do not judge you in your crisis or about your disorder. Overtime, your list will prove itself out all on its own. The people who can deal with and are helpful will remain and your relationship with them will grow, those that aren’t build for this, will forge a different type of relationship.
Not being able to be apart of your Core People doesn’t make a person bad for you. It just means that they aren’t the ones to call in a crisis. That is okay. Be patient with everyone around you when it comes to your disorder, just as they will need to be patient with you.
At this point, you should have been able to assess what is best for you before, during, and after a crisis. Use this knowledge to help you in building your core circle of people.
